What Love Looks Like..

Currently, my husband and I are counseling a few folks regarding relationships. In the course of conversations, we hear similar themes play out time and again. The theme of “If he/she really loved me, they would not act this way, do this or that” .. To which, the other responds, “If you would stop doing this or that, I would stop too”… and around and around we go.. The blame game. The ole, if you do x, then I will do y song. The deal maker, the bargaining, negotiating etc.. You name it, we’ve really kind of heard it all. blame game

When I hear couples speak in such a way, I have to inwardly cringe, then, smile recalling that before I became grounded in the Lord, and put through some serious situations in my own relationship, my husband and I could and would act the same way!

Then I take a deep breath, pray and say what God has put on my heart to say to the individual, couple etc.. 

I am so very thankful that Jesus Christ did not play the blame game. I am grateful that He sacrificed Himself and gave up dimensions of His being that we may never know about! All because He extended to us LOVE in place of blame and took away our sin and shame! THAT is what LOVE looks like my friends. THAT is LOVE. To put aside pride, personal feelings and just forgive. To extend grace and mercy to those who don’t deserve it.

THAT is LOVE. Christ-like LOVE. 

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This photo is the closest I could find and doesn’t even come close to accurately depicting the suffering of Jesus according to scripture.

When I challenge folks with that kind of love.. I often hear.. “They did this and that to me! Could YOU forgive THAT?” To which, I respond, “Yes! Because, I have been forgiven, I too forgive those who trespass against me!” “I have and will continue to forgive because Jesus Christ, was taken to be scourged, beaten to the point that His face no longer bore any resemblance of a man, then the Roman soldiers wove a crown of thorns (not just rosebush kind of thorns) Jerusalem thorns which are very long, thick and sharp! Felt the need to smash it down on His already beaten and bloody head and brow…

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made to carry a heavy wooden cross to the point of collapse so that Simon of Sirene had to take it up and carry it for Him! Then to be laid on said cross and NAILED to IT! Hanging there, scourged, beaten, practically disemboweled, lungs crushing under the weight of hanging there… He suffered in AGONY!

Let’s pause a minute.. I can’t see through my tears.. My heart is aching and burning, Forget the clean, peaceful looking crucifixes of Jesus on the cross.. They are not reality. In my very humble opinion, too much artistic license has been taken to “clean up the cross” so to speak. It gives a sanitary and far too watered down image. It does no one’s soul any good to look upon a peaceful Jesus hanging on a cross…  OK now back to the article…

And died for me. Me! Jesus Christ died BECAUSE OF ME and FOR ME! An undeserving, sinning, wretch! My sins helped hang Him on that cross” So YES!!! I CAN AND DO FORGIVE!! Anything less is unthinkable. Ilovedyouatyourdarkest

When we do not forgive others, we are telling God what He did, by sacrificing His son for us, wasn’t enough. Nope.. sorry God, not good enough… WHAT?! I would hate to be you when you stand in front of Him at the end of your days. (Just sayin’)

So now that I have painted that picture.. What do you think? You think you are still in a position to point a finger? Not forgive? Not live in peace with your loved ones? Friends? Even strangers? I will leave it there and let your own conscience and convictions take it from here…..

Selah (Think Upon These Things)

Until the spirit moves me again, Love one another in His name..

Patti (Yeshuazgirl) <><

 

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What Do You Want To Be Known For?

A few months ago, I ordered a small, rare treat for myself from a friend’s company.WhatDoYouWantToBeKnownFor

Inside the wonderfully wrapped box, was this card. It impacted me so much, that I have it standing up on my small dresser jewelry box. I positioned it so I can see it each and every morning.

Some days,I contemplate these words more than others. 

The beauty of this question is that it challenges us to really consider who we now are and who we want to become. The person known for X…. great things.

Here is my personal answer to this question. I simply want to be known for excellence in service. That’s it. Period.

Excellence in service to my LORD. Whatever that looks like, whatever the work of my hands are, THAT is what I want to be known for.

What about you?

 

The little Things

Have you ever wImageatched horses in a field? Sometimes a small, sweet lazy horse will stand up to a larger, dominant horse trying to get their hay. I’ll bet you would never expect it, and you may not believe me but, it’s true and the same holds true for us. In the story of David and Goliath, a twelve year old shepherd boy defeated a twelve foot man with a single stone and his sling shot. Nobody expected it, no one could believe their eyes but it was true!

David ended up becoming king of Israel. When he faced the giant, he picked up five smooth stones, not because he doubted one stone would kill the giant but, because he wanted to take care of Goliath’s four brothers too but, they fled. No not the stones, the brothers fled 🙂

There is a saying that “God does not call the equipped, He equips the called”.

So stand strong and face the giants of your life with courage! Know that Jesus is the rock that you stand on and His word is the sword that you fight with. You are never weak when you have faith in the savior like David did!

Hope my blog blessed you!

Rebekah Grace Cianflone Age 10

We Now Host Pony Parties!

Hello Folks!

To help with the cost and upkeep of the ministry needs for the children and horses, we have added hosted events and pony parties to our insurance policy. We are excited to be able to host small events and pony parties in our small pasture that is well groomed and half shaded, with a view of the fields! We have acquired an event tent 10 x 20 and 20 heavy duty but very attractive folding chairs. 🙂

We’re even hosting a women’s retreat over Memorial Day weekend!

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For more details how you can reserve your spot to make your child’s party memorable and help our ministry, click on the “Gig Salad” pic below.

Pony Party in Quakertown

All parties are booked via this site to stay organized and keep track for tax purposes etc.. 🙂

Hope to see y’all soon!

God Bless!

 

Partner In Ministry

The Lord’s Lead Line Christian Equine Ministry

http://Facebook.com/TheLordsLeadLine   http://thelordsleadline.org 

                                                                                      

ImageHello Dear Friends!

This last year has truly been blessed and we have grown more than we had hoped. God has been so faithful to us in this ministry!

As we look toward the coming weeks, months and Lord willing, years, at our farm in Quakertown, PA. Here are some of the things we feel in our hearts that the LORD is leading us to do:

  • Since Stephen Cianflone (the Mr. of the ministry) J was in the US Air Force for 10 years, we would like to help our veterans of the military, police, and fire fighters with the many battles they face with PTSD and so much more.
  • Working with the youth of the inner city of Philadelphia.  Not only showing them the love of Jesus Christ, but also teaching basic horsemanship, and care of barn and farm.
  • Using our 25 plus years together to minister to struggling married couples by mentoring them using the scriptures to counsel them on how God wants us to resolve conflicts and differences in love and gentleness.
  • Continue to expand our work with bullied, neglected, abused, and adopted kids and families.
  • Starting a Friday evening barn Bible study.

With these things in mind we are sending out an invitation to become a true partner in this ministry!

You may be asking, “How can I do that?” Don’t live close? Can’t make it to our farm to help in person? You can still be actively involved by becoming a partner in The Lord’s Lead Line ministry to help many families, couples, children and adults!

 Here’s how you can help! To become a partner in our ministry, we are asking for a commitment of $30 a month. That’s only $1.00 per day and less than the cost of a cup of coffee!

The funds will go to the upkeep, feed, hay, hoof trims, dental, vet needs and supplies for the horses as well as for the needs of the families that visit us. As a thank you for Imagebecoming a partner, we will send you one of our cool custom-made feed bag totes! (Design may differ from photo)

These tough totes are stylish conversation starters! Waterproof and roomy! They hold up to 50 pounds easily.

If you live in the area and are able to partner with us for a onetime gift of $300 or more, as a thank you gift, we will give you a free pony party for your child. The party includes 2 hours of pony rides for 10 kids plus the birthday child, use of our facility at a day and time of your choosing, fun games and prizes, an experienced kind and helpful pony walker and decorations!

Families can donate in any way they wish however; there is never any expectation. We depend solely on financial donations, the work of our volunteers and also the gifts of those who believe in what we do.
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We do not limit our services to children! We have adults that come to our ministry as well! We currently have an adult who is recovering from a stroke and one who has been recently diagnosed with Huntingdon’s Disease. 

We Do NOT charge for our services.

Partnering with us will help us keep it that way

 Thank you for considering partnering with us in this ministry. God Bless! 

The Cianflone Family, Volunteers and Horses x0x0x

 Romans 8: 28 – And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. 

Home Again Home Again… Amy’s Story

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Me and Patrick Practicing for Speed Events – Krewstown Horse Show 1982

Many years ago, I met Amy’s first owner. She was my next door neighbor and somehow we started sharing about horses. I told her about my adventures de-spooking my first horse (I rescued him from an Amish farmer when I was 12 years old).

She shared with me about her horse “Amy” who needed some further work in that area as well as training overall. She had sent Amy for 30 days professional training and the results were only so-so. Amy was green-broke to ride but, came back with some issues that were not expected.

We became fast friends and soon I found myself working with Amy to “polish up” her initial training and put her head on straight regarding spooky stuff, head shy issues and biting etc… Amy gave me some lumps as a youngster but, I enjoyed the challenge and I instantly bonded with her.

Years went by and even though we were still neighbors, I fell out of touch with her owner. Then one day, Amy’s owner contacted me and asked if I could take Amy as she could no longer afford to keep her and she had just been paying full care board for x- years and not able to see her much or ride.

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Steve on Amy

I spoke with my husband and we agreed to take Amy. It so happened that I had a horse and pony already and kept them at a friend’s barn for free in exchange for work. So we picked up Amy and brought her to her new place. My husband loved to ride Amy in the park and around the barn. We had her for a few years there then suddenly, our relationship with the owner of the barn soured and we sought other arrangements for our horses.

Unfortunately, we could not afford to pay full care for three horses. The pony was my daughter’s and would be heart-broken if we had to sell her. My horse (Pogo) had been horribly abused in the past and could still be a handful so there was no way she would go with anyone easily nor was I willing to risk anyone’s safety. I also did not want her to end up in the slaughter pipeline again.

Amy was the only choice to re-home. With broken hearts, we placed an ad about Amy and offered her free to a good home. I received a few responses but, after a short phone screening, I declined those folks. A few days went by and a woman called telling me that she is interested in Amy for her daughter and would need a beginner safe horse. Bingo. This woman sounded reasonable so I agreed to have them come and try my out. I offered with her, Amy’s winter blanket, grooming supplies, tack trunk, bridle and custom made Circle Y saddle.

This was a beginner’s dream! Not only were they getting a well-trained, anything safe horse, but all of her supplies and tack for FREE!

The only issue Amy had was a new case of greasy heel due to the barn flooding from the nearby creek after Hurricane Irene. Other than that, she was sound, healthy and tons of life and pep left in her at 20 years old.

The woman, her daughter and neighbor came to see Amy a few days after our phone conversation. All I wanted was a great new home for her and to be able to bless another person with this wonderful horse. They fell in love with Amy immediately. The neighbor said, words to the effect of “that is one good horse” “you are lucky to have found her and she’s free! You just don’t come by horses like this every day”.

So, after a short test ride in the corral, the review and signing of a contract in which I made certain to give me the “right of first refusal” if they ever needed to rehome Amy for any reason. We packed up Amy’s things and loaded her onto the trailer with a lot of coaxing and she was off to her new life with an eager 14 year old girl and things looked great.

We kept in touch via Facebook and saw the girl and Amy bond, ride, have fun etc… Time passed and less and less updates were had, fewer pictures posted. So it was put on my heart to ask about Amy. No response for a little while, so I became concerned and messaged again asking about Amy.

Then I received a response that I did not expect. It seemed that the girl had “outgrown” Amy and wanted to advance. Now I will have you all know, Amy is highly trained and can perform and compete at any level – however, she is older so may not have been able to keep up, be as fast etc… I will let you know that I do not blame the girl for wanting to advance and become a better rider, ride more than Amy could handle etc…

So the message read that they were possibly going to be looking for a new situation for Amy. My heart sank. My barn had no room and so I had to decline taking Amy for the time being. They promised me that Amy would go to a great family only and that they loved Amy very much.

They had recently purchased another horse from a broker and she seemed very reputable so they decided to re-home Amy with her as she promised to find a good home for Amy and the horse they purchased from her was healthy, safe and sane.

It turned out that this broker was not so reputable and had many many complaints pending against her. Thus Amy inadvertently ended up in a bad situation. The link below is a complaint that mentions Amy specifically.

http://www.ripoffreport.com/r/kristy-haugh/harrisburg-pennsylvania-/kristy-haugh-nobodaddy-farm-horse-flipper-and-big-scammer-harrisburg-pennsylvania-1036965

A short time after Amy was placed at this broker’s barn, I received an urgent call from one of my boarders who was a racehorse trainer said that another racehorse trainer friend of mine was frantically trying to contact me about a horse.

So I called back and was told to contact an investigator immediately about a horse that she knew used to be mine and her name was “Amy”. Alarm bells went off in my heart and head immediately as I had worked in the past with this investigator regarding horse neglect, abuse cases.

To make a twisty, turny, bad story short, after my conversation with my investigator friend,  I called the family that I placed Amy with immediately and they were appalled and shocked that this was happening. The husband took a trip out to the broker’s barn and looked Amy over they went the next day with a trailer and $500 to bail Amy out and get her back to safety. They had to pay $500 to this woman to buy Amy back but they had GIVEN Amy to her for free just as I had given Amy to them just in hopes of having a good home for her.

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While Amy was in this woman’s “care” she was not fed properly, had lost condition and was kept in deplorable conditions including being penned with a stallion and possibly in foal. Amy is 22 years old and in her weakened state, would not have survived having a a foal.

The family called the vet out, got the necessary treatments for Amy, put weight back on and then wanted to re-home her again but ONLY with me. As it turned out, we were just in the process of taking over the entire farm so now we could indeed take Amy!

ImageSo now Amy is home again with me until the natural end of her days where she will be pampered and spoiled and loved on and ridden by many children. Forever and ever..

Amen.

Choosing Your Words Carefully

Have you ever said something that you wish you could take back? You’re probably wondering, “How do I stop that?” The answer is to choose your words carefully. You might have heard something similar to this before (“Choose your words wisely.”)

Do you know why you do and say things that you don’t mean? One reason is that sometimes you may not think about what you’re going to say and just blurt stuff out.

The other reason is you let a bad thought sit in your head which means you’ll start saying it, and it can lead to you actually doing it.

So if you have a bad thought, ask God to take it away. Also remember to “think before you speak” (as my mom likes to say). It’s not always easy, but it’s definitely worth it.

Have you ever heard the saying, “Haste makes mistakes”? When you’re in a rush to say something you don’t give yourself time to think about what you should say.

That’s when you blurt out something you don’t mean and hurt other people’s feelings.Image

If you find yourself starting to say or do something wrong, then stop! But always remember that God will forgive you even when you blurt out something or do wrong. So from now on, remember to choose your words carefully, you’ll be glad you did.

May God bless you!

Rebekah Cianflone Age 9

The Lord’s Lead Line

Using Your Time Wisely

Traffic is driving outside and there isn’t a lot going on. Not much to see or do. It’s cloudy and damp out there, and boring in here.

Of course this is to be expected, considering it is spring and rain comes with spring so I can’t go outside. The beginning of the season was more like summer. Then the rain started.

Although they say “April showers bring May flowers”, it stinks having to be inside a lot. So here I am gazing out the window in front of me, wishing for it to be summer. Writing and waiting until dinner. I then remember that the most important time is now, because now is all we have.

If we waste that short period of time, we cannot get it back. Like when you burn wood to fuel a fire. Once the wood is burned, it cannot come back for more use.

Now take a moment and think, ask yourself, “Do I really want to do this?” and

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 “Is this what the LORD would have me do?” When you use your time wisely, you will be happy you did; especially later on when you can’t change what you did earlier in life.

Think about the benefits of using your time wisely, and the consequences of wasting it. Which seems better? To me, using my time wisely is the best and wisest thing to do.

I hope you liked my first ever blog article! 🙂

God Bless!

Rebekah Cianflone Age 9

The Lord’s Lead Line