What Love Looks Like..

Currently, my husband and I are counseling a few folks regarding relationships. In the course of conversations, we hear similar themes play out time and again. The theme of “If he/she really loved me, they would not act this way, do this or that” .. To which, the other responds, “If you would stop doing this or that, I would stop too”… and around and around we go.. The blame game. The ole, if you do x, then I will do y song. The deal maker, the bargaining, negotiating etc.. You name it, we’ve really kind of heard it all. blame game

When I hear couples speak in such a way, I have to inwardly cringe, then, smile recalling that before I became grounded in the Lord, and put through some serious situations in my own relationship, my husband and I could and would act the same way!

Then I take a deep breath, pray and say what God has put on my heart to say to the individual, couple etc.. 

I am so very thankful that Jesus Christ did not play the blame game. I am grateful that He sacrificed Himself and gave up dimensions of His being that we may never know about! All because He extended to us LOVE in place of blame and took away our sin and shame! THAT is what LOVE looks like my friends. THAT is LOVE. To put aside pride, personal feelings and just forgive. To extend grace and mercy to those who don’t deserve it.

THAT is LOVE. Christ-like LOVE. 

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This photo is the closest I could find and doesn’t even come close to accurately depicting the suffering of Jesus according to scripture.

When I challenge folks with that kind of love.. I often hear.. “They did this and that to me! Could YOU forgive THAT?” To which, I respond, “Yes! Because, I have been forgiven, I too forgive those who trespass against me!” “I have and will continue to forgive because Jesus Christ, was taken to be scourged, beaten to the point that His face no longer bore any resemblance of a man, then the Roman soldiers wove a crown of thorns (not just rosebush kind of thorns) Jerusalem thorns which are very long, thick and sharp! Felt the need to smash it down on His already beaten and bloody head and brow…

THEN

made to carry a heavy wooden cross to the point of collapse so that Simon of Sirene had to take it up and carry it for Him! Then to be laid on said cross and NAILED to IT! Hanging there, scourged, beaten, practically disemboweled, lungs crushing under the weight of hanging there… He suffered in AGONY!

Let’s pause a minute.. I can’t see through my tears.. My heart is aching and burning, Forget the clean, peaceful looking crucifixes of Jesus on the cross.. They are not reality. In my very humble opinion, too much artistic license has been taken to “clean up the cross” so to speak. It gives a sanitary and far too watered down image. It does no one’s soul any good to look upon a peaceful Jesus hanging on a cross…  OK now back to the article…

And died for me. Me! Jesus Christ died BECAUSE OF ME and FOR ME! An undeserving, sinning, wretch! My sins helped hang Him on that cross” So YES!!! I CAN AND DO FORGIVE!! Anything less is unthinkable. Ilovedyouatyourdarkest

When we do not forgive others, we are telling God what He did, by sacrificing His son for us, wasn’t enough. Nope.. sorry God, not good enough… WHAT?! I would hate to be you when you stand in front of Him at the end of your days. (Just sayin’)

So now that I have painted that picture.. What do you think? You think you are still in a position to point a finger? Not forgive? Not live in peace with your loved ones? Friends? Even strangers? I will leave it there and let your own conscience and convictions take it from here…..

Selah (Think Upon These Things)

Until the spirit moves me again, Love one another in His name..

Patti (Yeshuazgirl) <><

 

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Choosing Your Words Carefully

Have you ever said something that you wish you could take back? You’re probably wondering, “How do I stop that?” The answer is to choose your words carefully. You might have heard something similar to this before (“Choose your words wisely.”)

Do you know why you do and say things that you don’t mean? One reason is that sometimes you may not think about what you’re going to say and just blurt stuff out.

The other reason is you let a bad thought sit in your head which means you’ll start saying it, and it can lead to you actually doing it.

So if you have a bad thought, ask God to take it away. Also remember to “think before you speak” (as my mom likes to say). It’s not always easy, but it’s definitely worth it.

Have you ever heard the saying, “Haste makes mistakes”? When you’re in a rush to say something you don’t give yourself time to think about what you should say.

That’s when you blurt out something you don’t mean and hurt other people’s feelings.Image

If you find yourself starting to say or do something wrong, then stop! But always remember that God will forgive you even when you blurt out something or do wrong. So from now on, remember to choose your words carefully, you’ll be glad you did.

May God bless you!

Rebekah Cianflone Age 9

The Lord’s Lead Line

The Family Part 2 Wives To Their Husbands

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22.

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22.

The part of scripture I am about to talk about raises almost more eyebrows, more debate, and more disagreement than almost any. It is this “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22. This verse is straight forward and leaves no doubt what God’s will for a wife is in the marriage. Why the controversy?  Men have abused this verse badly. Women do not want to be ruled.

Let me start this by saying that it is not the man’s right to demand this of his wife or, enforce it in any way. This is her gift to give to you to show her love to the LORD. Yes, a gift to be given not co-horsed, beaten, prodded, or other methods by men to get her to submit to him. Nor is this to any other man either, just her husband. So let us explore this gift of love.

Submission by definition is, to give over or yield to the power or authority of another. So God is saying a wife should yield to her husband as unto the LORD. Yes this does mean in all things. There is only ever one reason she should not yield and that is if it is direct defiance of the LORD’s commands.

So why would God say this? Why would God tell women to submit to her husband when she is fully capable of making good decisions on her own and in many circumstances maybe be even better than her husband’s? How is this relevant today when women are strong leaders and are able to be equally good at supporting the family as a bread winner? Well the answer we hear a lot of times is that God said so. While true, it does not make it easier to do.

Here is the reason why. For in submitting to her husband she is allowing God to be ingen316 charge over her husband instead of her. In Genesis chapter 3 after Adam and Eve eat from the tree we see God’s judgment on them both for disobeying God.

16 To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.”

17 Then to Adam He said, “Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat of it’:

Although in the account we are not told what Eve said to Adam as to get him to eat of the fruit. Clearly in verse 17 God tells us that Adam heeded the voice of His wife. Adam chose to listen to her instead of God.

“No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money.” Matthew 6:24. Although this verse seems to only be talking about money or wealth, I contend that this is talking about anything we put in place of God. This does apply to the marriage relationship also. If your husband is listening to you or following your direction how can He serve the LORD? Even though what you want is right and good.

Even when a man wants to follow the LORD women can be very persuasive. There is a scene in the movie My Big Fat Greek Wedding where the women are trying to get the husband to allow the daughter to go to school. In this scene one of the women says men are the head but the women are the neck. “Wherever the neck turns, so does the head.”

In addition to the women being very persuasive we see as prior to the fact of God’s judgment the reason why God decided to do what He did. 9 Then the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, “Where are you?” 10 So he said, “I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.” 11 And He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?” 12 Then the man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.” 13 And the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”

Adam instead of taking responsibility for his actions, not only blamed the woman for his trespass but also God because He created the woman for Adam. Eve instead of blaming herself for not listening to God through her husband she blamed Satan. It is for these very reasons that God said that a man must lead and a woman shall follow. Because they did not stand up and bear the blame for their actions. This has been the case for sin throughout history. Instead of bearing the responsibility for our own actions we seek to blame others. Men no longer have an excuse of “well the woman made me do it,” and women do not have the excuse any longer in that the devil made me do it. He has made us responsible for our own actions.

This is important because the only way we can be forgiven is if we own up to our failings and disobedience. God wants to forgive us and have mercy and grace on us. Matthew 9:13  But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy and not sacrifice.’ For I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners, to repentance.”  Neither Adam nor Eve ever asked for forgiveness for what they did, instead they just blamed others. If they had asked, I truly believe that things would have been different.

So wives love God by submitting to your husband and allow God to deal directly with your husband and cause Him to do His part. In doing so you show your husband mercy, grace and love, allow God to be in charge. In doing so you are free from being blamed by your husband for his failure to listen to God, and you cannot be used by the enemy to lead him astray. In addition wives please pray without ceasing for your husband’s relationship with God, for his decision making, for health and safety at work, pray against temptation, and for open and honest communication with you.

Steve’s Story

Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

The above verse is the basis of our ministry to the families who love the LORD Jesus Christ. To heal the relationships forgive the past overcome the obstacles and seek victory through the hope that is only provided by our LORD.

Inside the body of Christ there are many abused, neglected, bullied and at-risk youth. Marriages that are in turmoil, and relationships between parents and kids that need to be healed. Through God’s word, and through the amazing horses He has created, we seek to be used by God to start the healing process that is so desperately needed.

My wife has already told you from her perspective of why she was called to do this. So I only think it fair to let you know why I am as well. For many years, as a child, I was bullied by those at school, in my own family and even by the church.  I also suffered debilitating allergies and asthma that isolated me even more from others even when I was not being bullied.

All of this caused me to walk away from God.

I began to live a life that was filled with self-gratification. I sought those who would accept me even if it harmed me and my future. No longer did God matter and the sheer mention of the existence of a God, that I felt had wronged me and even thought hated me for allowing all that I went through in my life angered me. 

Those feelings and a sense of isolation followed me into my marriage. It not only sought to destroy me, but also my wife and eventually our children.

Again I fully blamed God for all of this. Yet it is through my oldest child who was 4 years old at the time, that the Lord chose to reveal Himself through her and call me as one of His own.  At that time, things were the worst for my family that they had ever been. Divorce was most assured. Losing all that I said that I held dear, was going to happen.  I was brought to the end of myself. I was crying in the bedroom when my daughter came to me wrapped her arms around me and said, “God is going to make everything okay!” It was that sentence, which if it had been spoken by anyone else, that person would have met with my full wrath. But coming from this precious little one that I was about to lose ,changed everything.

In an instant I knew she was right. It was then the LORD started to show me why I had been allowed to go through what I had been through in my life , why I was still standing and how He was there with me.

 

The LORD, in a very short time healed my marriage, my relationship with my child,  many of my wounds, and allowed me to overcome many obstacles.  Using the experiences that God has brought us through, and gave us victory over, we will serve His children. This is the mission of The Lord’s Lead Line. To God Be All The Glory!

Stephen Cianflone

Do You Get it?

I am 44 years old now and just decided what I wanted to be when I grew up.

How many of you are with me? OK put your hands down 🙂 I can’t see them anyway. But, a vast majority of you probably either physically or mentally just shook your head in agreement right? yep thought so.. I know, I’m good.. *smile*

Anyway, why the heck does it take so many twists and turns in life to finally “get it”?

THAT IS IF WE EVER GET IT... Some sadly, never do….

Well, after much pondering and soul searching. I have come to one conclusion. We cannot decide because we are too busy being busy! I mean, think about it. From the time we enter kindergarten – well.. now it’s pre-school! That means school before school! what?!…

We’re too busy figuring out how to go to school, how to fit in when we get there, completing tasks set forth by others, finishing school, find a job, make a living, pay for school, find a spouse….. we’re always busy! Mostly about what others want us to do…

We’re hardly ever resting. Resting in what God has planned for your life.

My husband and I are finally resting. No we’re not unemployed or beach bums somewhere, nor are we back packing across the Himilayas. What we ARE doing, is we are heeding God’s calling on our lives to start this ministry for Him. To help care for and nurture and heal His glorious equines and those whom He calls His children. For His purposes and glory.

Currently, my husband is still working and getting recognition for good work at work. He even recently received a raise and promotion.  But, he realizes that man’s praise and goals are empty. He does the right thing because it is what God would have Him do. He loves the Lord and so do I. We are finally getting “it”. To live for Him and what He has called us to do with the lives He has blessed us with.

Do you have a calling on your life? Are you currently busy about other people’s work and goals? If so, I challenge you to evaluate where you are. To start, just sit still and be quiet. Listen to His still small voice and pray. Pray about what blessings God would have for you if you just stop being busy and be still.

My husband leads us in a home study of the bible on a regular basis. We are in my favorite book. Ecclesiastes. The Lord had me in this book for two years until I finally “got it”. This verse in particular really struck me..

Ecclesiastes 3:14

New King James Version (NKJV)

14 I know that whatever God does,
It shall be forever.
Nothing can be added to it,
And nothing taken from it.
God does it, that men should fear before Him.

OK take that first line. Whoa.. “Whatever God does shall be forever”

Yep it’s true! Simple example “old as dirt” check.. ok dirt is forever 🙂

Nothing can be added to it. – Can you make what God made better? Umm the answer is no. Staying with the dirt example, here is a favorite joke of mine.

One day a group of scientists got together and decided that man had come a long way and no longer needed God.

So they picked one scientist to go and tell Him that they were done with Him.

The scientist walked up to God and said, “God, we’ve decided that we no longer need you. We’re to the point that we can clone people and do many miraculous things, so why don’t you just go on and get lost.”

God listened very patiently and kindly to the man and after the scientist was done talking, God said, “Very well, how about this, let’s say we have a man making contest.” To which the scientist replied, “OK, great!”

But God added, “Now, we’re going to do this just like I did back in the old days with Adam.”

The scientist said, “Sure, no problem” and bent down and grabbed himself a handful of dirt.

God just looked at him and said, “No, no, no. You go get your own dirt!”

Ha! Simple truth.. right there. Something we walk on every day. God made for us to plant in, play in, make houses out of, heal bee stings, throw at your little brother.. uh.. scratch that last one…. *grin*

And nothing taken from it. – Self explanatory 🙂

God does it, that men should fear before Him. – God’s word says that the beginning of wisdom is fear of the LORD.

Anyway, you see? God took care of it all. He owns it all, made it all to bless us. His children.

Now I am not advocating quitting your job, eating just beans, making your own clothes out of animal hides and wearing tissue boxes on your feet. No, I am simply asking you, challenging you to sit still and ask yourself and God, “Is this what I am called to do with my life?” If you’re not sure, then seek hard after what it is that you ARE called to do.

You my friend, are missing out on huge blessings not living for Him! I know that you’ll figure it out in time just like we did. Whenever I prayed, I prayed specifically and told God (like He didn’t know already) that I’m a little thick and a lot hard of hearing Lord, so could you make your plan reallllyy clear?! So I don’t mistake it for my own selfish nature and go down the wrong path? OK Thanks.

Then I would get a “sign” something someone said, a divine appointment, a word in the Bible.. then I would be like Gideon and ask God for more and more signs. Finally God gave me the ultimate sign. He put so many people in my life to help kick start this ministry all at once, that there was no denying that YES. This IS what He wants for my family’s life!

So with that, I will end my little story and remember, be still, pray, seek, be still, pray, seek. I’ll be praying that you “get it” too!

All the best & God Bless!

Patti