What Love Looks Like..

Currently, my husband and I are counseling a few folks regarding relationships. In the course of conversations, we hear similar themes play out time and again. The theme of “If he/she really loved me, they would not act this way, do this or that” .. To which, the other responds, “If you would stop doing this or that, I would stop too”… and around and around we go.. The blame game. The ole, if you do x, then I will do y song. The deal maker, the bargaining, negotiating etc.. You name it, we’ve really kind of heard it all. blame game

When I hear couples speak in such a way, I have to inwardly cringe, then, smile recalling that before I became grounded in the Lord, and put through some serious situations in my own relationship, my husband and I could and would act the same way!

Then I take a deep breath, pray and say what God has put on my heart to say to the individual, couple etc.. 

I am so very thankful that Jesus Christ did not play the blame game. I am grateful that He sacrificed Himself and gave up dimensions of His being that we may never know about! All because He extended to us LOVE in place of blame and took away our sin and shame! THAT is what LOVE looks like my friends. THAT is LOVE. To put aside pride, personal feelings and just forgive. To extend grace and mercy to those who don’t deserve it.

THAT is LOVE. Christ-like LOVE. 

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This photo is the closest I could find and doesn’t even come close to accurately depicting the suffering of Jesus according to scripture.

When I challenge folks with that kind of love.. I often hear.. “They did this and that to me! Could YOU forgive THAT?” To which, I respond, “Yes! Because, I have been forgiven, I too forgive those who trespass against me!” “I have and will continue to forgive because Jesus Christ, was taken to be scourged, beaten to the point that His face no longer bore any resemblance of a man, then the Roman soldiers wove a crown of thorns (not just rosebush kind of thorns) Jerusalem thorns which are very long, thick and sharp! Felt the need to smash it down on His already beaten and bloody head and brow…

THEN

made to carry a heavy wooden cross to the point of collapse so that Simon of Sirene had to take it up and carry it for Him! Then to be laid on said cross and NAILED to IT! Hanging there, scourged, beaten, practically disemboweled, lungs crushing under the weight of hanging there… He suffered in AGONY!

Let’s pause a minute.. I can’t see through my tears.. My heart is aching and burning, Forget the clean, peaceful looking crucifixes of Jesus on the cross.. They are not reality. In my very humble opinion, too much artistic license has been taken to “clean up the cross” so to speak. It gives a sanitary and far too watered down image. It does no one’s soul any good to look upon a peaceful Jesus hanging on a cross…  OK now back to the article…

And died for me. Me! Jesus Christ died BECAUSE OF ME and FOR ME! An undeserving, sinning, wretch! My sins helped hang Him on that cross” So YES!!! I CAN AND DO FORGIVE!! Anything less is unthinkable. Ilovedyouatyourdarkest

When we do not forgive others, we are telling God what He did, by sacrificing His son for us, wasn’t enough. Nope.. sorry God, not good enough… WHAT?! I would hate to be you when you stand in front of Him at the end of your days. (Just sayin’)

So now that I have painted that picture.. What do you think? You think you are still in a position to point a finger? Not forgive? Not live in peace with your loved ones? Friends? Even strangers? I will leave it there and let your own conscience and convictions take it from here…..

Selah (Think Upon These Things)

Until the spirit moves me again, Love one another in His name..

Patti (Yeshuazgirl) <><

 

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The Lord’s Lead Line Christian Equine Ministry

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ImageHello Dear Friends!

This last year has truly been blessed and we have grown more than we had hoped. God has been so faithful to us in this ministry!

As we look toward the coming weeks, months and Lord willing, years, at our farm in Quakertown, PA. Here are some of the things we feel in our hearts that the LORD is leading us to do:

  • Since Stephen Cianflone (the Mr. of the ministry) J was in the US Air Force for 10 years, we would like to help our veterans of the military, police, and fire fighters with the many battles they face with PTSD and so much more.
  • Working with the youth of the inner city of Philadelphia.  Not only showing them the love of Jesus Christ, but also teaching basic horsemanship, and care of barn and farm.
  • Using our 25 plus years together to minister to struggling married couples by mentoring them using the scriptures to counsel them on how God wants us to resolve conflicts and differences in love and gentleness.
  • Continue to expand our work with bullied, neglected, abused, and adopted kids and families.
  • Starting a Friday evening barn Bible study.

With these things in mind we are sending out an invitation to become a true partner in this ministry!

You may be asking, “How can I do that?” Don’t live close? Can’t make it to our farm to help in person? You can still be actively involved by becoming a partner in The Lord’s Lead Line ministry to help many families, couples, children and adults!

 Here’s how you can help! To become a partner in our ministry, we are asking for a commitment of $30 a month. That’s only $1.00 per day and less than the cost of a cup of coffee!

The funds will go to the upkeep, feed, hay, hoof trims, dental, vet needs and supplies for the horses as well as for the needs of the families that visit us. As a thank you for Imagebecoming a partner, we will send you one of our cool custom-made feed bag totes! (Design may differ from photo)

These tough totes are stylish conversation starters! Waterproof and roomy! They hold up to 50 pounds easily.

If you live in the area and are able to partner with us for a onetime gift of $300 or more, as a thank you gift, we will give you a free pony party for your child. The party includes 2 hours of pony rides for 10 kids plus the birthday child, use of our facility at a day and time of your choosing, fun games and prizes, an experienced kind and helpful pony walker and decorations!

Families can donate in any way they wish however; there is never any expectation. We depend solely on financial donations, the work of our volunteers and also the gifts of those who believe in what we do.
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We do not limit our services to children! We have adults that come to our ministry as well! We currently have an adult who is recovering from a stroke and one who has been recently diagnosed with Huntingdon’s Disease. 

We Do NOT charge for our services.

Partnering with us will help us keep it that way

 Thank you for considering partnering with us in this ministry. God Bless! 

The Cianflone Family, Volunteers and Horses x0x0x

 Romans 8: 28 – And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. 

The Family Part 2 Wives To Their Husbands

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22.

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22.

The part of scripture I am about to talk about raises almost more eyebrows, more debate, and more disagreement than almost any. It is this “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22. This verse is straight forward and leaves no doubt what God’s will for a wife is in the marriage. Why the controversy?  Men have abused this verse badly. Women do not want to be ruled.

Let me start this by saying that it is not the man’s right to demand this of his wife or, enforce it in any way. This is her gift to give to you to show her love to the LORD. Yes, a gift to be given not co-horsed, beaten, prodded, or other methods by men to get her to submit to him. Nor is this to any other man either, just her husband. So let us explore this gift of love.

Submission by definition is, to give over or yield to the power or authority of another. So God is saying a wife should yield to her husband as unto the LORD. Yes this does mean in all things. There is only ever one reason she should not yield and that is if it is direct defiance of the LORD’s commands.

So why would God say this? Why would God tell women to submit to her husband when she is fully capable of making good decisions on her own and in many circumstances maybe be even better than her husband’s? How is this relevant today when women are strong leaders and are able to be equally good at supporting the family as a bread winner? Well the answer we hear a lot of times is that God said so. While true, it does not make it easier to do.

Here is the reason why. For in submitting to her husband she is allowing God to be ingen316 charge over her husband instead of her. In Genesis chapter 3 after Adam and Eve eat from the tree we see God’s judgment on them both for disobeying God.

16 To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.”

17 Then to Adam He said, “Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat of it’:

Although in the account we are not told what Eve said to Adam as to get him to eat of the fruit. Clearly in verse 17 God tells us that Adam heeded the voice of His wife. Adam chose to listen to her instead of God.

“No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money.” Matthew 6:24. Although this verse seems to only be talking about money or wealth, I contend that this is talking about anything we put in place of God. This does apply to the marriage relationship also. If your husband is listening to you or following your direction how can He serve the LORD? Even though what you want is right and good.

Even when a man wants to follow the LORD women can be very persuasive. There is a scene in the movie My Big Fat Greek Wedding where the women are trying to get the husband to allow the daughter to go to school. In this scene one of the women says men are the head but the women are the neck. “Wherever the neck turns, so does the head.”

In addition to the women being very persuasive we see as prior to the fact of God’s judgment the reason why God decided to do what He did. 9 Then the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, “Where are you?” 10 So he said, “I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.” 11 And He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?” 12 Then the man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.” 13 And the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”

Adam instead of taking responsibility for his actions, not only blamed the woman for his trespass but also God because He created the woman for Adam. Eve instead of blaming herself for not listening to God through her husband she blamed Satan. It is for these very reasons that God said that a man must lead and a woman shall follow. Because they did not stand up and bear the blame for their actions. This has been the case for sin throughout history. Instead of bearing the responsibility for our own actions we seek to blame others. Men no longer have an excuse of “well the woman made me do it,” and women do not have the excuse any longer in that the devil made me do it. He has made us responsible for our own actions.

This is important because the only way we can be forgiven is if we own up to our failings and disobedience. God wants to forgive us and have mercy and grace on us. Matthew 9:13  But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy and not sacrifice.’ For I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners, to repentance.”  Neither Adam nor Eve ever asked for forgiveness for what they did, instead they just blamed others. If they had asked, I truly believe that things would have been different.

So wives love God by submitting to your husband and allow God to deal directly with your husband and cause Him to do His part. In doing so you show your husband mercy, grace and love, allow God to be in charge. In doing so you are free from being blamed by your husband for his failure to listen to God, and you cannot be used by the enemy to lead him astray. In addition wives please pray without ceasing for your husband’s relationship with God, for his decision making, for health and safety at work, pray against temptation, and for open and honest communication with you.

First Ever Community Day! This Saturday! 08/18 From 1 – 4 PM

We will be hosting our first ever Community Day! ~ “A Day At The Races”  THIS Saturday! 08/18/2012 from 1PM – 4PM

The Lord’s Lead Line Ministry and Childhood Dream Equestrian Center are joining forces to put on a day of fun for you and your family and raise some funds for some needy equines!

Located at 1975 Krammes Rd. in beautiful Quakertown, PA.  Conveniently located, just off of PA Turnpike exit 44 or just off of Route 309!

There will be race themed games [egg & spoon races, three legged races, sack races] prizes, raffles for great prizes and more!

Great Prizes For Races!

Light refreshments will be for sale  – such as spring water, lemonade, cookies, soft pretzels and more!

We also have a good promise on a Rita’s water ice frozen treat cart with four flavors arriving! (keeping my fingers crossed for that!)

Get your picture taken on an ex-racehorse and printed on 5×7 glossy professional photo print and mailed to you!

Pony rides!

Meet the horses of the ministry and have a fun filled day for the whole family!

All proceeds go towards the care, feeding, and other needs of the horses!

Hope to see you all there!

Thanks & God Bless!

Patti

Mia’s Testimony

MIA’S STORY

 

 My name is now “Puella Mia” which means “My Girl” in a language called Latin. My name used to be “Muchacha Grande”. I am an ex-race horse who, despite great bloodlines, did not like to race. You may have heard of some of my relatives, “Native Dancer“, “Bold Ruler“…

I was involved in a pretty bad horse trailer accident a few days before I was sold for slaughter. I was in the meat pen and really did not care if I lived another day or died.

I was very thin and had many wounds and abrasions all over my body. A woman named “Kelly” bought me from the kill broker and took me to her place called a “rescue”. After a few short weeks, I felt completely different! Kelly kept me for about a year and had the vet treat my wounds. Then just recently, on August 9th 2012, a very nice family came to take me to their barn and make me a part of their family!

I just love getting attention, treats and to be groomed. I am very thankful for my second chance at life, and now I am blessed to be able to help children overcome their own wounds inside and out!

Would you please help us continue this work with the kids? I really love this new life and want to keep helping kids and their families! Any amount is a true blessing! All donations go directly towards my care and feeding. Thank you and God bless!

XOXO

Love, Puella Mia A.K.A. “Mia”

Look for a full article all about me! Coming Soon! 🙂

Pogo’s Testimony

POGO’S STORY

 My name is Pogo. I was sent to the kill pen bound for slaughter in February 2007. I was labeled as an “Outlaw Horse” which, in the horse world means, that people thought that I was dangerous and not trainable.

They gave up on me. What they didn’t realize was that I was horribly abused and fearful of people and what they might do to me next.

My actions were because I was afraid and just protecting myself. I never meant to hurt anyone.

Some nice people came to see me two days before I was scheduled to be shipped to slaughter. I liked them right away and followed them willingly onto a nice two-horse trailer. I knew then that my life was saved. The kill broker was not very happy that I loaded so easily for these nice people, but gave him and his brother-in-law three hours of hard work getting me on to their trailer.

It wasn’t easy adjusting to my new life and trusting these new people but, as you can tell we made it. I am very thankful for my second chance at life, and now I am blessed to be able to help children who are abused, at-risk and mislabeled!

Would you please help us continue this work with the kids? I really love this new life and want to keep helping kids and their families! Any amount is a true blessing! All donations go directly towards my care and feeding. Thank you and God bless!

XOXO

Love, Pogo

For my full story, please visit http://thelordsleadline.com

Article title “That’s it! I Quit!.. Pogo’s Story”

Lady’s Testimony

LADY’S STORY

 

My name is Lady. I was rescued at the age of three along with my son, a three month old colt. We were purchased from the New Holland Livestock Auction on September 6th 2003. My son and I were brought to a stable in the city.

I was scared and shy and blind in one eye. I was meant to be a little girl’s pony but, was very green which means, I did not know very much about carrying a human on my back.

Several months went by and I remained scared and shy. I did not want many people near me or my baby. On July 4th 2004 a nice family stopped by to say hello to some old friends.

Their eleven year old daughter just came up to my stall and I liked her right away. She and her family took care of me from then on. They taught me how to accept a rider and all the other things a brave pony should know. I was not so afraid any longer.

I am very thankful for my second chance at life, and now I am blessed to be able to help children overcome their own fears! I just LOVE when people, especially children, show me love and attention!

Look out! I may frisk your pockets *smile*

Would you please help us continue this work with the kids? I really love this new life and want to keep helping kids and their families! Any amount is a true blessing! All donations go directly towards my care and feeding. Thank you and God bless!

XOXO

Love, Lady

For my full story, please visit http://thelordsleadline.com

Article title “Waiting on the Lord and Lady Pony’s Story”

Wishes Do Come True!

Great gifts from Sarah for Lady Pony! x0x0

Hey All!

Just wanted to write a quick update.

Friday we had a family visit from one of our most favoritest families!

They came bearing gifts of a case of spring water, a bag of carrots and a new rubber sparkly curry brush and royal blue Twinkle Toes hoof polish for Lady Pony!

Sarah and Bekah happily painted Lady’s hooves with the Twinkles Toes then tacked up and rode for a bit!  Lady was very stylish in her new blue bling 🙂

Then when we arrived home later that afternoon, there was a heavy-ish package awaiting us.

Inside were items from our wish list and a few that were not! Here is the pic of the contents  below! 🙂

We feel so very blessed and grateful to all of our wonderful families and supporters! We thank and love you all to pieces! x0x0x0 We could NOT do what we do without you!

Great Gifts Sent by Darlene Brown 🙂 Thank you so very much! What a blessing you are! x0x0x

The Family Part 1: The Husband To The Wife

One of the greatest gifts besides Himself that God has given us is the Family! It is the basis of all society. Through the family, children are born and the next generation learns what it takes to survive and thrive in this world. It also should teach us what it means to serve the LORD and how to forgive.

Patti and Steve June 16, 1990 “Cake Smash Kiss”

The husband and wife are the driving force in a family. This union between a man and woman sets the course for the future. If this relationship is not strong, then the rest falls apart. God tells us in His word that the marriage is a picture of Christ and the church. They should work together seamlessly.

Yet it is this relationship that is so under attack and is undermined in many many ways. People today have forgotten what a marriage was supposed to be. We see the divorce rate ever increasing. Why you ask? Selfishness is the answer.

Instead of becoming “as one” in purpose and direction, each seeks to go their own way. Tearing apart the family, and leaving it shattered on the jagged rocks called self.

The head of this unit is neither the husband nor the wife. The head should be God. Just as the trinity is made up of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, the relationship of a marriage is God, the husband, and the wife. In the following passages we will see what this structure is supposed to look like.

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

These are the verses in scripture among many others that is to govern this beautiful relationship. It is often misused and misunderstood. If they were applied properly, a healthy marriage would grow. The problem is that the world says that it is outdated and man-centric. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Let us look deeper at this to understand. I am going to do this in reverse because this is the order of things as ordained by God.

What is the most important thing to a marriage?

It is not the wife submitting, or the husband loving his wife. 1Corthians 11:3 says 3 But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.  The husband submitting to Christ is the key to a marriage made in heaven. It is that submission that will allow Him to love His wife as Christ loves the church.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.

How many husbands can truly say they love their wives as Christ loves the church or even know what that is supposed to look like? I have been married 22 years and am still learning this.

So how does Christ love the church? Christ loves the church so much that He left the comfort of His Kingdom, was born into poverty, isolated, persecuted, bled, tortured, died, and was buried. He rose again three days later in victory over death.

He did not do this because the church was perfect or was better than anyone else. No He did this because He loved us.

This is the beginning of a marriage made in heaven.

Christ did this even though He knew the twist and turns the church would take throughout history. In His eyes she, the church, is perfect already. Do you see your wife as perfect? Yet that is how Jesus sees her ‘as perfect’ so should the husband see her the same way. Forgiving every mistake, and every challenge to your authority as a husband as many times as is necessary.

It also means giving up what is important only to you and how you want to spend your time. Yes that can mean giving up Sunday football or watching your favorite guy type movies and hanging out with the boys. If these pursuits are what you wanted to follow and forsake your wife for, then why did you get married in the first place?

There was a time early in my marriage, before I was saved, that these things were more important to me than my wife. I would spend countless hours and days playing video games, watching sports, and the nightly television shows. I so neglected my wife to the point that she would tell people that she could parade herself in front of me and I would never notice. I would get mad at her and tell her that she was in the way moving around her to see the television or computer screen to continue doing what I was doing. At one point she took to only coming over to me when there was a commercial or a break in the game. Then she stopped coming over all together.

You may ask why did I do these things? That is what I saw and learned in my own house growing up watching my mother and father do this to each other. It did not make it right but this is why.

In a nutshell 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 tells us How Christ loves the church. 4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Men this is how you are to love your wives every moment of every day till death do you part!

You say how can I do this? The task is much too great! What about her submission to me?

Husbands understand this and it will help you to love your wife. God inspired Paul to write this, and this is how God created marriage, so that we would have to depend on Him. This is part of having a relationship with Him. We cannot do this on our own. But through Him all things are possible.

Also, forget what your wife’s part is in this. She is responsible to God just as you are responsible to Him for your part. You cannot make her submit to your authority any more than she can make you love her. God is not going to say husband it is okay that you did not love your wife as I asked because she did not submit to you. No He will remind you of 1 John 4:10 10 In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins.

Husbands no matter what your calling is in this life, this is your first missionary field. It is always your task first and foremost as a testimony of God’s love for the world to those around you! If you do not love your wife as Christ loves the church, and do not have the time for her as He does for the church then you should quit the other pursuits and take care of your wife first!

The world is watching and they want to see whether you are real or whether you are just another hypocrite. That is what Paul means when he writes in 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.

Gentlemen see how great the task is? See why you must have a relationship with Christ? See how important this is? Oh and realize that not only do you have everyone outside of your house watching but the little eyes and ears, hands and feet are watching you and mimicking your actions too. It is these little blessings that make it even much more important.

Do not be discouraged or disheartened by this task. It takes a lifetime to be made into His image. Take each moment as it comes and have a very short memory of wrongs.  Lean on Jesus Christ to see you through the tough times and lean on Him even more during the good times so you do not become complacent. I have been married to my wife for 22 years. I have steadily grown in this role as husband and will grow even more in the next 22 and beyond.

I hope that this has been an encouragement to you all.

Stephen Cianflone